Gesture for Benik Afobe at southend game saturday

Not against doing something, but don't think a round of applause is appropriate.

Maybe a collection which can be passed on to him for a charity of his choice.

100% NOT an applause.

Totally, totally inappropriate.

Banner would be the best gesture perhaps.

Edit: Just seen the suggestion about a charity collection. That could be a good shout.

T-shirts worn by the players a good shout too.

Once the dust has settled on this awful tragedy Perhaps Benik will set up a foundation in her name or have a preferred charity in which to donate to further research in which claimed his little ones life so sadly, perhaps then it might be appropriate to think about donations etc and support the cause too.

But any form of support I’m sure is appreciated.

Yeh this I think.

I mean what do we really do?

Anything like "We stand with Benefik" would just be corny IMO and I doubt he'd even care (don't mean that to sound obtuse, just being realistic).

Ultimately we're all good human beings (well, most people are) and so you'd hope it's obvious we're all utterly heartbroken.

Given the nature of the tragedy, it doesn't seem like it was an illness either which makes the charity angle a bit more complex too. Normally when you lose a loved one to a disease, the obvious suggestion is to give to a charity that specialises in attempting to cure - or even treat - the disease. But I'm not sure it's relevant in this case.

Ultimately it's just one of those utterly heartbreaking situations - what do you do?

Maybe the club could issue an announcement saying everyone at Bristol Rovers sends their condolences etc. - but I can't help but think does it really matter? If I were in his shoes (and I don't even want to entertain the thought) I honestly wouldn't care about anything. At all.

It's one thing his club doing something and the City fans obviously - but anyone else is par for the course.

Sorry, don't want to offend anyone and I'm only thinking out loud - and of course if anyone wants to do anything at all then please do so; I just mean that anything organised just feels.... I don't really know how to word it.

What happened is so horrific. I can't even put it in to words properly. I just feel so sorry for them. It's heartbreaking.

Perhaps the club can have every players ‘under armour’ top printed with a short supportive message, similar to James Maddison’s & should we score Saturday, the nearest players lift the shirt & display said message as opposed to a celebration?

A simple gesture showing full support for a fellow professional going through the very worst of times right now.

Maybe better at doing this in the replay vs Plymouth for more publicity?

Yeah personally I wouldn’t want publicity or it to be all over the papers and media If god forbid I was ever in this situation.
They probably want their closest friends and family around them and everything else to be closed off I would have thought.
Not knocking the OP it’s a nice gesture but some things need to be low key and kept private and personal and I think this is one of them.

I’m not a moderator but if i was I’d close this thread.

Cogs has passed the clubs condolences on, no need for anymore from us.

“The entire family have been left totally devastated and heartbroken, and would like to ask that their privacy is respected at this incredibly difficult time.”

Any sort of public fundraiser,silence etc is going directly against the privacy Benik has asked for imo.