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Post by Midsomer Murderer on Jan 3, 2020 9:04:32 GMT
Personally i find th Christmas period one of th toughest where yous can feel bloody lonely even in a crowded place and when it's all over i'm always kinda glad but then struggle my ass off getting through th Dark month of January.
So, i jes wanted ta say if ya see folk out an about - ask em how they are, and i mean ASK THEM HOW THEY ARE!. Even some of th folk that appear smiling an full of jokes, many are struggling inside. An if like me you are one of th many strugglin inside - try to talk to someone, it really can help.
Cheers everyone.
Its very true this. People say I'm the life of the party because I tell a joke or two . Although I might be laughing loud and hearty , Deep inside I'm blue
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Post by clockendgas on Jan 3, 2020 9:35:37 GMT
Personally i find th Christmas period one of th toughest where yous can feel bloody lonely even in a crowded place and when it's all over i'm always kinda glad but then struggle my ass off getting through th Dark month of January.
So, i jes wanted ta say if ya see folk out an about - ask em how they are, and i mean ASK THEM HOW THEY ARE!. Even some of th folk that appear smiling an full of jokes, many are struggling inside. An if like me you are one of th many strugglin inside - try to talk to someone, it really can help.
Cheers everyone.
Its very true this. People say I'm the life of the party because I tell a joke or two . Although I might be laughing loud and hearty , Deep inside I'm blue life long ban for that musical quote
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Post by gashead1981 on Jan 3, 2020 10:10:59 GMT
Well done Jock and thanks to Tilly and others for sharing.
I too find not just Xmas a difficult time but the winter period. I don’t suffer from depression or anxiety in ways that others do, and I won’t pretend I do either. I feel I cope really well with trying situations and circumstances. I can honestly say I felt bullet proof until the winter of 2017.
I’ve posted here before that I had a son born with a few complications and a genetic condition that only affects 1 in 50k children.
It was weds Nov 15 ‘17 at the 12 week scan that the scans revealed some of the issues. That whole winter was spent with worry, appointments, diagnosis’, guesswork, pressure from drs to abort the pregnancy, being made to feel guilty and selfish by Drs for not aborting and wanting to give your child a chance regardless of what he may face. As well as having a wife suffering from hyperemisis (extreme morning sickness for the blokes on here) and was in and out of hospital for that. It was horrendous. Mentally and emotionally draining because there is absolutely nothing you can do.
Fast forward 2 years and my son is thriving. He’s gone through a few operations and recovered well from each of them and we have to manage his health a little bit and he will always live with the threat and possibility of a life changing/ending health risk. It’s a happy ending in every way and he brings me and the Mrs such joy.
However these dark winter days, they bring back so many horribly dark memories and experiences. It’s like staring into your own grave at times, mentally speaking. But I have always been able to work through it and see a way out through things I know work for me.
I can’t imagine how similar feelings to mine encapsulate someone even worse and they can’t see a way out. That entrapment must be so tormenting.
I had a message from a few posters here over the last 2 years just asking if I was ok and basically saying the same things as BJ wrote in his OP. I can’t thank them enough for that. It really helped just being able to type a reply sometimes.
So I echo every sentiment that’s been written here and do take 5 mins to check on others. If you are suffering it is ok to say and ask for help, even if you can’t express yourself with the right words. Maybe chose a song or a poem with lyrics that says it for you. Anything that may just start the ball rolling in the right direction.
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Post by 2nd May 1990 on Jan 3, 2020 11:05:27 GMT
Couldn't agree more, Jock. The bleakest period of my life, nearly 20 years ago, was in the month of January. I was very lucky to come through it alive and although not on the same scale, I often struggle to function properly at this time of year even now. Experience helps but I know that it doesn’t take much to push someone over the edge. Look out for your friends and family also at this time of year as if someone is experiencing a real low, it is often impossible to reach out to ask for help.
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Post by William Wilson on Jan 3, 2020 11:31:07 GMT
Up the Gers 👍and the gas , my two teams , 💙💙 You`ll know us by our noise...
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Post by William Wilson on Jan 3, 2020 11:52:02 GMT
I don`t get seriously down, but the cold, drab days don`t do much to lift anybody`s spirits. When warm, sunnier days seem a long way off, I think of the last lines of a poem that I learned in school. "If winter comes, can spring be far behind?" Could apply that, to any situation when things don`t look great.
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Post by Midsomer Murderer on Jan 3, 2020 12:18:13 GMT
Its very true this. People say I'm the life of the party because I tell a joke or two . Although I might be laughing loud and hearty , Deep inside I'm blue life long ban for that musical quote It's a song ? What a coincidence
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Post by lastminutewinner on Jan 3, 2020 12:20:28 GMT
A lady that used to work for me had mental health issues, mainly bi-polar and her worst month was always January. So much so that she used to ask for time off every January to go away on holiday with her family, and I used to give her as much time as she needed regardless of any staffing issues. It worked wonders for her!! A lot of people expect others with mental health issues to act like they don't have them; that is just wrong and leads to demons being bottled up.
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Post by blueblood1883 on Jan 4, 2020 12:34:20 GMT
Be interesting to see what happens today as its Holloway v Coughlan....
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Post by hollyhillgas on Jan 4, 2020 17:00:11 GMT
Be interesting to see what happens today as its Holloway v Coughlan.... It seems the manager who rejected Rovers, has lost to the manger who Rovers neglected to call.
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Post by pirate on Jan 4, 2020 17:01:37 GMT
Be interesting to see what happens today as its Holloway v Coughlan.... It seems the manager who rejected Rovers, has lost to the manger who Rovers neglected to call. Well done Ollie!
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Post by gashead12 on Jan 4, 2020 17:24:18 GMT
We really have become a society of weak people...so sad to see.
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Post by pirate on Jan 4, 2020 17:35:40 GMT
We really have become a society of weak people...so sad to see. Shamefully ignorant comment. Hope you or your family never have to suffer any form of mental health problems in the future, which is actually a strong possibility considering the statistics.
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Post by axegas on Jan 4, 2020 17:48:29 GMT
We really have become a society of weak people...so sad to see. What an insensitive thing to write. I think you’ll find that people that go through it aren’t weak but incredibly strong and the message of this thread to talk and seek help if you need it is spot on.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2020 18:16:15 GMT
We really have become a society of weak people...so sad to see. That's a very ill-informed comment. I got through losing our business, our home, and then my husband, and never took a day off work during that time. I was strong enough to start again from scratch, with nothing, and now own my home again. Everything in my world should now be hunky dory, but mental health can sap all your inner strength, until you just have a black void inside your head, however, it's not a sign of weakness. I pity your ignorance and lack of compassion.
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Post by Marshy on Jan 4, 2020 18:25:06 GMT
We really have become a society of weak people...so sad to see. That's a very ill-informed comment. I got through losing our business, our home, and then my husband, and never took a day off work during that time. I was strong enough to start again from scratch, with nothing, and now own my home again. Everything in my world should now be hunky dory, but mental health can sap all your inner strength, until you just have a black void inside your head, however, it's not a sign of weakness. I pity your ignorance and lack of compassion. I’m not sure he meant it like that Tilly, but if he did he’s a twat! Go girl!
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Post by pirate on Jan 4, 2020 18:42:36 GMT
We really have become a society of weak people...so sad to see. That's a very ill-informed comment. I got through losing our business, our home, and then my husband, and never took a day off work during that time. I was strong enough to start again from scratch, with nothing, and now own my home again. Everything in my world should now be hunky dory, but mental health can sap all your inner strength, until you just have a black void inside your head, however, it's not a sign of weakness. I pity your ignorance and lack of compassion. If that isn't any incredibly strong woman, I don't know what is!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2020 20:16:11 GMT
We really have become a society of weak people...so sad to see. I said I'd be here for all gasheads but with ignorance like that may karma do its job! Hope you learn the hard way therefore!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2020 20:19:16 GMT
We really have become a society of weak people...so sad to see. stupid comments like this have been the reasons why certain people haven't opened up and have ended up killing themselves instead. Absolutely raging! Inconsiderate lady garden!
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Post by stuart1974 on Jan 4, 2020 20:40:33 GMT
I usually love this time of year but this time Christmas was quite difficult for once.
When going through Hell, keep going and remember there are people willing to help.
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