Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Aug 13, 2016 12:10:57 GMT
Please see below message from Nick Day via FB:-
Gasheads: Would you take a moment to read this email I received this morning. It stopped me in my tracks. Heartbreaking.
Can you help me make this happen for Joe Allington & his Dad Stuart? Please share and applaud as loud as you can on 24 minutes tomorrow.
Dear Nick
They say words are inadequate in these situations, so here are my inadequate words !
" My son Joe Allington died suddenly at the end of May at the tender age of 24. It was a huge shock to me, his mother Sue and the whole family. Joe was a fanatical Gas Head who only a few weeks earlier had been at the Mem to witness Rovers' final day triumph. Sadly he is not here today to see his team return to League 1.
Joe was a long-time supporter and season ticket holder who had watched Rovers from his seat in the South Stand, following them loyally even when they went down to the Conference. He may not be here now in person but we have to pray that somehow he is looking down on his beloved Rovers, cheering them on to greater and greater success. Hopefully remembering not to swear so much at the referees !
We will miss you always. Goodnight Joe, we'll see you in our dreams. "
You always want the best for your children, as you well know Nick. I don't know if it's within your power to ask for a round of applause on the 24th minute, but I'll ask anyway. If it was up to me there'd be a 24 gun salute !!
I appreciate you have restraints, time and otherwise, so if the applause isn't possible, or you have to paraphrase my words a bit, I'll understand. Just having a few words of remembrance spoken on Joe's behalf will mean such a lot.
Thanks again
Stuart Allington
|
|
|
Post by 84gas on Aug 13, 2016 12:17:27 GMT
So sad, we need to make it happen!
|
|
|
Post by RD on Aug 13, 2016 12:52:15 GMT
Christ, that's absolutely awful.
I'm sure Gasheads will give him the sendoff his deserves.
RIP Joe
|
|
|
Post by inee on Aug 13, 2016 13:22:50 GMT
Difficult to read.
Lets hope this does and can happen, some may or not know joe(i don't), some may ask why applause, all i can say is this as parents we should not ever have to bury our kids EVER, but for some of us that hell turns into a living hell, that not only affects family but friends too. The reality is as a parent you blame yourself even when you know you did everything you could for your child(may be of adult age but will always be your kids ), this can have an adverse effect on not only the parents and siblings but also on those relationships, it's never intentional but it does happen, in time most can get over it ,well not really get over it but more learn to cope with it.
Believe it or not a gesture no matter how trivial it looks to others can make such a difference to a parent, a simple clap can mean to the parents that total strangers have shown a bit of love to their child, that simple act can believe it or not be the difference between spiraling downwards or staying on an up and help with the grieving process.
I can understand what the father is going through but will never say i know as the grieving and pain is different for everyone, I can't and will never claim to understand what the mum is going through and to be frank would never want to, so please join in with the applause as you won't understand just how mush you are helping the family.
Likewise for a parent the simple fact that the gas family showed a bit of respect to a young gashead will give them a feeling that i personally hope no one else has to experience and those feelings can never be put into words, for the parent those feeling will get right down into their bone marrow or soul, those feeling will stay with them for the rest of their lives, will always raise a smile when they think of their son, i know some may not understand my post, and i hope those people never get to understand it, but the parents will know what i mean.
If the parents are reading this, i know words mean feck all but try and keep going on take everyday as it comes, please do not argue with each other as this is the only time in your lives you have to look on things in a cold hearted logical manor and realise, it's not your faults, talk often to each other about joe
I'm not going to say it will be easy, to be truthful it is a nightmare you will have to go through everyday for the rest of your lives, if you want to lash out punch a wall,don't argue with those closest to you.
Grief is unique to the person grieving, if your other half seems to cope better or worse never ever question why just be there for each other at all times, if someone says you seem to be taking a long time grieving ,tell them to fek off, as you and only you will know how you are feeling, please don't say to joe's mum that you understand how she feels as believe me no matter how much hurt and pain we as fathers go through we cannot begin to image the affect it has on out other halves.
If stuart is reading this ,if you need to rant at someone, need to talk to someone, feel free to pm me and we can meet up or talk over the phone( don't worry it's almost impossible to offend me)
I know all from personal experience, and i also know that a simple round of applause will help this couple out in ways many can't imagine or even believe.
Head up Joes mum and dad, as believe it or not some of us are thinking of you in these dark days ,weeks,years ahead
R.I.P Joe (having a kick about somewhere with legends from the past)
|
|
|
Post by inee on Aug 13, 2016 13:25:56 GMT
Mods can this be stickied to allow people to read it
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Aug 13, 2016 13:29:31 GMT
Top post inee, well done man.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Aug 13, 2016 13:49:16 GMT
I hope it happens,top post inee
|
|
|
Post by slam on Aug 13, 2016 14:54:40 GMT
Made me cry. I don't have a big family and I don't have kids, so I will never experience what has happened. But as Gasheads, we are family - I will be applauding for Joe.
What a game he saw to bow out on - RIP Joe
|
|
|
Post by Newton Abbot Gas on Aug 13, 2016 15:35:16 GMT
There will be a minutes applause on the 24th minute of the game tomorrow here in Newton Abbot ...R.I.P Joe...
|
|
|
Post by pucklegas on Aug 13, 2016 15:49:03 GMT
RIP joe, thinking of the family at this very sad time, think we should do this at the Chelsea away game too as I am sure he would have been there.
|
|
|
Post by wiaww on Aug 13, 2016 16:47:52 GMT
Made me cry. I don't have a big family and I don't have kids, so I will never experience what has happened. But as Gasheads, we are family - I will be applauding for Joe. What a game he saw to bow out on - RIP Joe Me too, like a baby. This is utterly heartbreaking and I really hope the applause happens tomorrow. RIP Gashead, gone far too soon.
|
|
|
Post by Okebournegas on Aug 13, 2016 16:50:20 GMT
Difficult to read. Lets hope this does and can happen, some may or not know joe(i don't), some may ask why applause, all i can say is this as parents we should not ever have to bury our kids EVER, but for some of us that hell turns into a living hell, that not only affects family but friends too. The reality is as a parent you blame yourself even when you know you did everything you could for your child(may be of adult age but will always be your kids ), this can have an adverse effect on not only the parents and siblings but also on those relationships, it's never intentional but it does happen, in time most can get over it ,well not really get over it but more learn to cope with it. Believe it or not a gesture no matter how trivial it looks to others can make such a difference to a parent, a simple clap can mean to the parents that total strangers have shown a bit of love to their child, that simple act can believe it or not be the difference between spiraling downwards or staying on an up and help with the grieving process. I can understand what the father is going through but will never say i know as the grieving and pain is different for everyone, I can't and will never claim to understand what the mum is going through and to be frank would never want to, so please join in with the applause as you won't understand just how mush you are helping the family. Likewise for a parent the simple fact that the gas family showed a bit of respect to a young gashead will give them a feeling that i personally hope no one else has to experience and those feelings can never be put into words, for the parent those feeling will get right down into their bone marrow or soul, those feeling will stay with them for the rest of their lives, will always raise a smile when they think of their son, i know some may not understand my post, and i hope those people never get to understand it, but the parents will know what i mean. If the parents are reading this, i know words mean feck all but try and keep going on take everyday as it comes, please do not argue with each other as this is the only time in your lives you have to look on things in a cold hearted logical manor and realise, it's not your faults, talk often to each other about joe I'm not going to say it will be easy, to be truthful it is a nightmare you will have to go through everyday for the rest of your lives, if you want to lash out punch a wall,don't argue with those closest to you. Grief is unique to the person grieving, if your other half seems to cope better or worse never ever question why just be there for each other at all times, if someone says you seem to be taking a long time grieving ,tell them to fek off, as you and only you will know how you are feeling, please don't say to joe's mum that you understand how she feels as believe me no matter how much hurt and pain we as fathers go through we cannot begin to image the affect it has on out other halves. If stuart is reading this ,if you need to rant at someone, need to talk to someone, feel free to pm me and we can meet up or talk over the phone( don't worry it's almost impossible to offend me) I know all from personal experience, and i also know that a simple round of applause will help this couple out in ways many can't imagine or even believe. Head up Joes mum and dad, as believe it or not some of us are thinking of you in these dark days ,weeks,years ahead R.I.P Joe (having a kick about somewhere with legends from the past) What a top man you are , that brought a tear to my eye Beautiful words. I will most definitely give a clap in honour of the young man and his family.
|
|
|
Post by yategas78 on Aug 13, 2016 17:17:02 GMT
This puts everything into perspective R I P and heart felt condolences to Joes parents and family I'm sure the applause will ring around the Mem at 24 minutes tomorrow
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Aug 13, 2016 17:31:59 GMT
How amazing would it be if the gas scored in that minute!
|
|
|
Post by wiaww on Aug 13, 2016 18:11:24 GMT
This puts everything into perspective R I P and heart felt condolences to Joes parents and family I'm sure the applause will ring around the Mem at 24 minutes tomorrow It really does but it also serves as a reminder as to why football is so very important to so many. It hurts so much when you hear of the passing of a gashead, young or old. The bond shared by supporters of a football club is real; even if it is often dismissed as tribalism we know it's much more than that. This extends to the wider footballing community but it's so much worse when it's one of your own.
|
|
|
Post by malcolmnl on Aug 13, 2016 19:53:13 GMT
Hello. Moderator from Yellows forum, malcolmnl in peace here. This thread has been linked to the Oxford forum and I am sure that the Oxford fans will join in with the applause for Joe. Things like this always bring fans back down to earth, and at such times we all realise that much as we all love our respective clubs, there are much more important things in the world.
RIP Joe
|
|
|
Post by Gashead73 on Aug 14, 2016 7:19:25 GMT
I can't make the game today but I shall raise my beer, take a sip and then I shall clap for the lad in the 24th minute.
R.I.P Gashead
|
|
|
Post by stigofthegas on Aug 14, 2016 10:29:09 GMT
Hello. Moderator from Yellows forum, malcolmnl in peace here. This thread has been linked to the Oxford forum and I am sure that the Oxford fans will join in with the applause for Joe. Things like this always bring fans back down to earth, and at such times we all realise that much as we all love our respective clubs, there are much more important things in the world. RIP Joe Top man. Great post
|
|
|
Post by Hugo the Elder on Aug 14, 2016 13:45:52 GMT
Bumped.
Let's make sure this happens.
UTG.
|
|
|
Post by Hugo the Elder on Aug 14, 2016 14:28:27 GMT
What an excellent tribute and topped with a goal.
Well done to the Oxford fans too.
|
|