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Post by Gaswood on Apr 12, 2021 20:32:33 GMT
Cancelled his loan at Bolton to take time away from football. Says he’s struggling with the fact he doesn’t enjoy it at all, and says that if you don’t enjoy playing in a promotion challenging side then something must be wrong. Interesting - he’s had a lot of negative press over the years, but I wonder how much of an effect there is from playing with no support etc, or if there’s some mental health issues there. Really interesting / worrying given the recent sad loss at Yeovil.
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Post by Gas_Quarters on Apr 12, 2021 20:46:37 GMT
I never liked him when I’d seen him play I must admit. But I think the story suggests he’s struggling with his mental health for certain. Billy Kee retired from professional football for similar reasons and as far as I’m aware just has the odd game in non league now.
I think it would be easy to be frustrated with footballers in your team for stepping away like this, but God knows what they’ve got going on in their personal life or in their head. It’s easy to forget sometimes that players aren’t just products there for our entertainment and they are people that have problems in their lives the same as anyone else.
Hopefully they come away from the game and get the support they need to get their head and their life back on track. Unfortunately for some, like Lee Collins as you mention, that support doesn’t come until it’s too late and they pay the ultimate price. Very sad.
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Post by Gassy on Apr 12, 2021 20:48:52 GMT
Think I saw something about Billy Kee being a builder and he said he’s never been happier.
Good on him tbf
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Post by Somersetgas on Apr 12, 2021 21:16:27 GMT
Think I saw something about Billy Kee being a builder and he said he’s never been happier. Good on him tbf Mental illness is a scary thing, men aren’t as indestructible as some people think. Good luck to him and I hope he finds his peace.
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Post by pirate on Apr 12, 2021 21:18:48 GMT
Wish him all the best and hope he can find happiness. Good luck to him.
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Post by aghast on Apr 12, 2021 21:32:48 GMT
Think I saw something about Billy Kee being a builder and he said he’s never been happier. Good on him tbf Mental illness is a scary thing, men aren’t as indestructible as some people think. Good luck to him and I hope he finds his peace. I think it's slowly becoming more acceptable for men to admit to weakness or vulnerability. That hasn't always been the case, of course, and in my opinion, and from what I've read, having to bottle it all up and 'act like a man' has led to many incidents of domestic violence, alcohol/drug abuse and mental health issues. There's still a long, long way to go in this area and many men are not at all sympathetic or understanding, but they need to thank their lucky stars they haven't suffered like many others privately do.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2021 22:13:14 GMT
Sometimes people are very good at something, but they don't really enjoy doing it. Good luck to him, however things work out.
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Post by Somersetgas on Apr 12, 2021 22:13:17 GMT
Mental illness is a scary thing, men aren’t as indestructible as some people think. Good luck to him and I hope he finds his peace. I think it's slowly becoming more acceptable for men to admit to weakness or vulnerability. That hasn't always been the case, of course, and in my opinion, and from what I've read, having to bottle it all up and 'act like a man' has led to many incidents of domestic violence, alcohol/drug abuse and mental health issues. There's still a long, long way to go in this area and many men are not at all sympathetic or understanding, but they need to thank their lucky stars they haven't suffered like many others privately do. It’s acceptable until you admit to your friends and family.....::
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Post by mariobalotelli on Apr 12, 2021 23:14:42 GMT
I think it's slowly becoming more acceptable for men to admit to weakness or vulnerability. That hasn't always been the case, of course, and in my opinion, and from what I've read, having to bottle it all up and 'act like a man' has led to many incidents of domestic violence, alcohol/drug abuse and mental health issues. There's still a long, long way to go in this area and many men are not at all sympathetic or understanding, but they need to thank their lucky stars they haven't suffered like many others privately do. It’s acceptable until you admit to your friends and family.....:: Tend to agree. Broke one night and told my family and the response wasn’t what I expected. Is what it is
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2021 23:21:31 GMT
It’s acceptable until you admit to your friends and family.....:: Tend to agree. Broke one night and told my family and the response wasn’t what I expected. Is what it is Sadly that is true for both men and women. But on the plus side, support and understanding does sometimes come from the most unexpected places. Stay strong.
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Post by pucklegas on Apr 13, 2021 6:45:03 GMT
Sometimes people are very good at something, but they don't really enjoy doing it. Good luck to him, however things work out. Agreed Tilly and we have a lot of players who love playing but............😂
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Post by tommym9 on Apr 13, 2021 7:57:45 GMT
Fair play to him for opening up. A dream job to the majority of us, but if he's not happy then whats the point?
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Post by gashead1981 on Apr 13, 2021 8:06:43 GMT
Perhaps he looked at the Yeovil captain and realised something.
Just following Rovers can make you feel depressed. 2 mods on here recently took a break because following us and then dealing with the negativity here that brings got to them.
I guess it’s the same playing in a relegation threatened team with 5-10k people yelling stuff at you or even trying to deal with the weight of expectation playing for a big club in a small league.
Fair play to him.
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Post by Gas_Quarters on Apr 13, 2021 11:48:58 GMT
Perhaps he looked at the Yeovil captain and realised something. Just following Rovers can make you feel depressed. 2 mods on here recently took a break because following us and then dealing with the negativity here that brings got to them. I guess it’s the same playing in a relegation threatened team with 5-10k people yelling stuff at you or even trying to deal with the weight of expectation playing for a big club in a small league. Fair play to him. I was thinking this last night too. I think the pressure and expectation put on players gets overlooked because it’s a dream job for most, getting paid a fortune for doing what is my favourite hobby every day of the week. Then I thought about it. I hate making a mistake in my own work, and yet the consequences, depending on the severity of the mistake, are that I get told to re-do it, perhaps get a slap on the wrist from my boss, and I guess if I made a really serious mistake I might get a first warning (fortunately this hasn’t happened). And just this makes me feel a bit sh** about myself. If a footballer makes a mistake, they get moans and groans and screams from thousands of so called “supporters”. They then go home probably feeling down about their performance and open their phones to hundreds of messages of abuse and threats because they had a bad day at the office. They then turn the tv on to see pundits and analysts telling the world they’re not good enough (if they’re at the top level). Maybe it’s not quite the dream job I’ve always imagined.
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